I just finished reading the book, Raising a Daughter after God’s Own Heart.
I was reading this book because I felt like it would reach out to a deep need in my own life right now.
That of HOW to raise daughters that yearn after God.
Somedays I feel like giving up. Throwing in the towel. It just feels too hard.
I know what kind of Mom I’d like to be, and I find myself falling so far short of that goal that it seems it would be easier to just give up.
Please tell me I’m not alone in this! How do we come to the point of being able to accept where we are at and realize that God is able to use us/me anyway?!
I so plainly see my own faults and failures, and I want my girls to have so much more, to be so much more, than where I am at. And yet, am I being completely unrealistic? I realize that they do, each and every one of them, have to come to the point where they choose (or don’t choose) to follow God, it has to be their own relationship with Him. It can’t be because of me, or my relationship with Him. I can’t be their Holy Spirit, or convict them, they have to listen to Him, allow Him to work in their hearts.
One thing that hit me so hard in the reading of this book was the thought that my own life–my goals, my priorities, my attitudes, and yes, even my failures. These are what they see, this is the example, the pattern that is before them! If I want them to have the proper goals and priorities in life, it MUST start with me. And I think this is perhaps why this whole thing is so very hard! It is only through God, letting Him be in control of me, seeking after Him with all my heart, that I can begin to be the Mom that He wants me to be.
I’d love to hear from you! What are things that you have learned? What are resources that have been helpful to you? Boundaries that you have found necessary for your own family? And if you don’t want to share it publicly, feel free to pm me on facebook, or send me an email at firstname.lastname@example.org. I think this is one way we can be a huge encouragement to one another!
Oh yeah-one other thing I wanted to mention is this whole thing of social media. Wow-it gets way out of hand! And so quickly! And yet, am I spending too much time there myself? What am I showing my daughters? We are working on finding a balance here at our home. One that does allow them to have some access to social media, without being glued to it at all spare minutes….and I am open to suggestions in this area too! And how to stay safe online–what boundaries & precautions to use or have in place. Have you found something that works good for your family? I’d love to hear about it!